Archive for the ‘self esteem’ Category

Sharing or Despairing

December 1, 2011

I’ve made a hobby of collecting inspiring stories.  When I interview amazing people on my show, I’ve noticed that every single story without exception has a hard part in the middle.  These hard parts of life create a choice.  The choice is between sharing and despairing.  When you focus on your problem as if it is all about you, get ready for some serious despair.  When you realize that your problem has something to do with assisting others who have similar problems, and you get busy sharing what you’ve learned and how you’ve grown, life takes on new meaning and purpose.  I am so grateful for good people who are willing to share – it helps me feel less crazy and more hopeful in my own challenges.  Sharing or despairing – it’s your choice!
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Recognize that each of us has the power to change the way react to the situations we face in life.
Marc Muchnick


Mind The Gap

November 5, 2010

When you compare how you are doing with the ideal, how do you feel? Common words my clients share with me are “frustrated”, “inadequate”, “depressed”, or “discouraged”. Dan Sullivan of The Strategic Coach teaches that this is because of “The Gap”. The gap is defined as the permanent distance between your reality and the ideal. On the other hand, when you compare how you are doing to how you have done in the past, how do you feel? Common words to describe this scenario are, “encouraged”, “accomplished”, “satisfied”, or “pleased.” You get to choose the standard by which you measure your progress – Mind the Gap!

Swing hard, in case they throw the ball where you’re swinging.
– Duke Snider

Failing Forward

September 16, 2010

I’m enjoying reading John C. Maxwell’s book Failing Forward.  Failure is an almost universal fear.  I say “almost” because the truly successful people in life have a very different view of failure.  Maxwell points out that one of the greatest problems people have with failure is that they are too quick to judge isolated situations in their lives and label them as failures.  Instead, they need to keep the bigger picture in mind.  Whether you call what is happening in your life or what has happened in your life as a failure is up to you and you alone.  You have the power to label your experience as failure or as a powerful learning experience – choose!

The difference between greatness and mediocrity is often how an individual views a mistake.

– Nelson Boswell

Toward, Not To

March 11, 2010

What if I were to give you a challenge to run to the horizon and back?  The horizon is not a real place, it is just a concept.  Sometimes we get stuck thinking we have to be perfect, and we are not OK until we get there.  Perfection is not a real place either.  You can’t really even get closer to the horizon because as you approach, your perspective changes and the horizon moves farther away.  When I teach boy scouts how to use a compass, I have them get their bearings by finding a landmark somewhere way out there in the direction I want them to go and then move toward that landmark.  They are not going TO the landmark, just TOWARD it.  Use perfection as a standard only to get your bearings so you’ll know what to move toward.  And remember, you are not going TO the horizon, only TOWARD it.

Be yourself… cuz everyone else is already taken.

– My Friend Shelby’s Facebook Status

Follow The Lights

May 19, 2009

Have you ever been out driving in the fog or the rain or snow, and it gets so heavy that you can barely see where you are going?  I remember several times like this when the best way to keep moving forward is to follow the lights of someone ahead.  Life gets murky at times and it can be hard to see clearly the road ahead.  Find wise mentors and be humble enough to look at their experience.  Keep moving forward, you never know who is following your lights.

 A ship in port is safe, but that’s
not what ships are built for.
 – Grace Hopper

Your Mess Becomes Your Message

April 1, 2009

Difficult circumstances, crushing burdens, troubled relationships, poor choices, tragedy… What are the messes in your life? I realized a while back that every person or story that has inspired me has a hard part in the middle. The unconquerable human spirit that drives people through and above their challenges has the power to inspire. With the proper attitude and perspective, your mess becomes your message.

Please take a moment to enjoy a powerful example of this from a few of my dear friends:

Your mess becomes your message.
Jon Gordon (at least that’s who I heard it from…)

Stay tuned to Live On Purpose Radio, where Mary Louise will soon be a guest!