Archive for September, 2010

Be Box 1

September 30, 2010

Imagine three magical machines or boxes… Into Box 1  you feed a crisp $100 bill.  It hums and the lights flash and every single time it spits out $200.  Do you like this box?  How often would you feed this box?  How hard would it be to get other people to feed this box?  This is going well, so you take one of your $100 bills and feed it into Box 2.  Box 2 hums and the lights flash and every single time it spits out $100.  How excited are you about this one?  There is one box left so you feed another $100 into Box 3, which hums and the lights flash and every single time it spits out $20.  Notice the difference in how you feel about each of these boxes.  What is the box?  The box is always a person.  If this is true, which box are you?  If you always strive to create more value for others than you consume, there will be no shortage of those who want to feed value into you.  If you are Box 3 you are depleting the resources of others.  Be Box 1!

Be Box 1

Life is an echo; what you send you comes back.

Chinese Proverb

Failing Forward

September 16, 2010

I’m enjoying reading John C. Maxwell’s book Failing Forward.  Failure is an almost universal fear.  I say “almost” because the truly successful people in life have a very different view of failure.  Maxwell points out that one of the greatest problems people have with failure is that they are too quick to judge isolated situations in their lives and label them as failures.  Instead, they need to keep the bigger picture in mind.  Whether you call what is happening in your life or what has happened in your life as a failure is up to you and you alone.  You have the power to label your experience as failure or as a powerful learning experience – choose!

The difference between greatness and mediocrity is often how an individual views a mistake.

– Nelson Boswell

Camels and Change

September 2, 2010

Several years ago, Vicki and I visited the Canary Islands in connection with an evaluation I was doing in a child custody matter.  While we were there, we rode a camel.  I learned that camels have the interesting tendency to grumble and complain with every command that the wrangler issued.  He would command them to kneel so the rider could mount up – and the camel would grumble and complain.  He then commanded them to stand, and again grumbling and complaining.  Basically anything that represented a change brought on the attitude.  How are you handling the changes in your life?  Remember, better is always different.  Look at the changes in your life as amazing opportunities to experience something better, rather than just grumbling and complaining about having to move.