Archive for November, 2009

Acceptance, not Apathy

November 20, 2009
Several of my clients just this week have been concerned that they are becoming “hardened” or “past feeling” because they don’t feel as upset about something in their life as they did a while back.  When we first encounter or anticipate a difficult or painful life circumstance, we may be overcome with fear, dread, shock, or horror.  As we come to terms with these life challenges, we begin to accept them for what they are.  This frees up our mind to actually start working on productive solutions or adaptation.  As you begin to accept things as they are, you become less frantic, and can actually have more influence on potential outcomes.  Acceptance doesn’t mean that you don’t care.

The real voyage of discovery consists not in making new landscapes but in having new eyes.

– Marcel Proust




November 11, 2009

Decisions, choices, options… Those words delineate freedom and control over various aspects of life. They also strike fear into the heart, mostly because of the chance that your choice will be WRONG! But not making a choice is itself a choice with a full spectrum of consequences. You can’t not choose, so choose wisely. Don’t worry about making a mistake – that just gives you the opportunity to learn something you didn’t know before.

When you have to make a choice and don’t make it, that is in itself a choice.

– William James