Archive for March, 2008

Whatever Kind You Want

March 26, 2008

There are times when my kids have some kind of a choice to make among a variety of options, and faced with the difficulty of deciding they may ask, “Dad, which kind should I get?”  My response is predictable as I say, “Whatever kind you want.”  It seems so obvious to me that it is just a matter of choice and preference.  Well, recently my wife called her dad, who was unavailable to answer the phone.  She got the routine message of, “I’m not available… please leave a message…” etc., but then the ending took her by surprise.  Just before the beep Vicki heard, “Have whatever kind of day you want!”  It is, after all, just a matter of choice and preference.  We’ve been getting a lot of mileage out of this one as we encourage each other now to do just that.  I’m trying to give up the selfishness of insisting that others have the kind of day that I want them to have, and just accept their choice. 

Have whatever kind of day you want!

Five Key Relationships

March 19, 2008

I’ve been thinking a lot about our key relationships as I prepare for our couples retreat this weekend.  Obviously we are emphasizing the relationship with a spouse for this event, but there are five key relationships in our life – they are: 

  1. Your Relationship With Your Creator
  2. Your Relationship With Yourself
  3. Your Relationship With Your Family
    1. Spouse
    2. Children
    3. Extended Family
  4. Your Relationship With Other People
  5. Your Relationship With Things 

I have found that the happiest people I know have these relationships prioritized and in this order.  Getting them out of order tends to throw things out of whack.  Get them lined up and start realizing the happiness you were meant to enjoy.

Climate Control

March 12, 2008

The weather has been changing a lot here along the Wasatch Front in Utah, with Spring making a definite appearance.  I read a post today by Mark Sanborn who made some comparisons between the weather and our moods.  He writes, “The wild and varied weather swings of Colorado remind me much of what business and life are like. One day we’re figuratively lying on the beach and the next we’re freezing in a hail storm.  Which is your “normal” weather?  Over time it is easy to become discouraged and let snow and ice become our normal emotional weather. We still get sunny and warm some occasionally but look at those days as the exception rather than the norm.”  Unlike the weather, we have a little “Climate Control” we can do with our lives.  Keep a close eye on those prevailing patterns, and see what you can do about a little sunshine today. 

Don’t miss my interview with Mark on Live On Purpose Radio this week – you might remember him from my reference to his book, The Fred Factor, a few weeks ago.  Also, we have a few rooms left for the CreationTree Couple’s retreat next weekend – see the attached flyer and call right away if you want to hang out with some fantastic couples for a few days – I’d love to get better acquainted with you.

CreationTree Couple’s Retreat Brochure

Serve and Be Served

March 6, 2008

This week’s message is coming a day late because I spent yesterday in my Strategic Coach meetings in Santa Monica California.  While I was there I realized that sometimes I am hesitant to admit or reveal my weaknesses to others.  This is a common factor for most people, probably because we see it as a sign of weakness or something.  The realization I had is that if I refuse to share my weakness, I prevent others from sharing their strength.  This is the whole reason why we all have different strengths and weaknesses.  Because of this we can exchange with each other and improve each other’s lives.  Serve others through your strengths, and give them opportunities to serve through your weaknesses.