Sharing or Despairing

December 1, 2011

I’ve made a hobby of collecting inspiring stories.  When I interview amazing people on my show, I’ve noticed that every single story without exception has a hard part in the middle.  These hard parts of life create a choice.  The choice is between sharing and despairing.  When you focus on your problem as if it is all about you, get ready for some serious despair.  When you realize that your problem has something to do with assisting others who have similar problems, and you get busy sharing what you’ve learned and how you’ve grown, life takes on new meaning and purpose.  I am so grateful for good people who are willing to share – it helps me feel less crazy and more hopeful in my own challenges.  Sharing or despairing – it’s your choice!
 
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Recognize that each of us has the power to change the way react to the situations we face in life.
 
Marc Muchnick

Nobody Gets Out of This Alive

October 1, 2011

My friend Shawn Warenski is a funeral director.  Since I met Shawn as a guest on my show a few years ago, we have so far had two mutual clients.  I think Shawn may be the only guy in town who has a more stable job than me.  People really like and appreciate what I do for them, but they are dying to go see Shawn.  Few things are more certain than death.  You have probably heard the expression, nothing in life is certain except death and taxes – well I know people who avoid taxes. 

 In high school, my son was an avid runner.  I noticed when I attended his track and field events that different runners had very different approaches to their races.  The short distance guys would crouch down in the blocks and explode into a full sprint for the entire race.  The distance runners would stand in a group at the start and pace themselves through most of the race, sprinting only when they were approaching the finish.  Life has a finish line.  We usually don’t know how far off it is, we just know that it is there.  As we come to terms with our own mortality, we gain perspective on how to live our life.  Live well!

Death is more universal than life.  Everyone dies, but not everyone lives.

A. Sachs

What Doesn’t Make Sense

September 17, 2011

During a morning run this week I came across this sign for a golf course.  I quickly identified the golf bag and clubs on the right and the red rock outcropping on the left, but I couldn’t quite make out what that white item was attached to the cliff – it didn’t make sense to me.  As I continued to study what didn’t make sense, suddenly the white thing became a shirt on a man and the red rock cliff became a couple.  It all made sense to me as I finally made sense out of the part that didn’t.  In our lives there are often things that don’t make sense.  Take a closer look at those things, and often the very things that don’t make sense to us bring the whole picture into context.

In science, mistakes always precede the truth.

Horace Walpole

Chewable Chunks

July 20, 2011

When you take on life’s challenges it can seem overwhelming at times to even begin.  Looking at the entire project can be so daunting that you shrink from the task altogether.  Vicki and I just started cleaning out the “junk room” in the basement.  We were feeling a little this way, but realized that if we just start and take on small bits at a time, it becomes very do-able.  Take a look at that daunting task that you have been avoiding.  What little piece can you take on now?  Don’t worry about doing everything, just do something!
 

Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.
John Wooden

Watch Your Language

July 12, 2011

The language that we choose makes a big difference, and can completely change our experience.  I got two great examples last night as I was reading John Maxwell’s Failing Forward.  Do your challenges in life make you bitter or better?  Does adversity lead to breakdowns or breakthroughs?  Then this morning with one of my clients we were discussing letting go.  Letting go is different from giving up.  If what you want is not yet in your hand, and your hand is clenched so tightly around what you already have, how can you receive what you want?  Letting go is often the crucial step toward receiving what you want, because it opens your hands, heart, and mind to what can be.

Very often a change of self is needed more than a change of scene.

Arthur Christopher Benson

Weeds Thrive Too

June 1, 2011

After a very rainy May here in Utah, my little garden is thriving and growing well.  I also have a weed patch in a neglected spot that is thriving and growing well.  Our minds are like the fertile earth, ready and willing to return an abundance of whatever we plant and cultivate there.  But be careful – weeds are default.  If you don’t intentionally plant productive and positive thoughts, you may soon find the place overgrown with weeds of negativity, fear, and doubt.

Every thought is a seed.  If you plant crab apples, don’t count on harvesting golden delicious.

- Bill Meyer 

Cultivating You

May 24, 2011

I’m working on getting something of a garden going this spring, which requires a lot of cultivating, weeding, tending, watering, and nurturing of the seeds and plants in order to have a harvest. My friend, Garrett Gunderson hosted a phenomenal event in Salt Lake City last week where he pointed out that the key to wealth creation is to cultivate yourself. Take care of and invest in yourself, and you will thereby create your results. You are your greatest asset!

In the absence of clarity of your soul purpose you cannot discern the difference between distraction and opportunity

- Garrett Gunderson

Whatever Doesn’t Look Like That

April 19, 2011

Soap Circle

I was just looking at this chain that I whittled out of a family sized bar of Ivory soap.  The most common question I get about this after people marvel that I would have that much extra time on my hands is, “How did you do that?”  The answer is simple, I just cut off everything that doesn’t look like that.  Our lives tend to accumulate a lot of extra baggage from time to time.  Get a clear picture of what you want your life to look like, and start cutting off whatever doesn’t look like that!
 

 

Ability is what you’re capable of doing.
Motivation determines what you do.
Attitude determines how well you do it.
Lou Holtz 
 
 
Dr. Paul

Choose Happiness

February 24, 2011

A common theme lately in my practice has been that of choosing happiness.  We stumble around and search and strive for that which will make us happy thinking, “I will be happy when…” or “I would truly be happy if…”  The illusion that success will bring happiness traps us in a state of perpetually waiting for it to happen.  The real secret is that happiness brings success, not the other way around.  Choose happiness – no matter what.

Some people stumble through life trying to find the way to happiness, they don’t understand the way IS happiness.

Wayne Dyer

Mind Meals

January 27, 2011
One of my clients is a very successful corporate executive who engaged in a six-session life coaching process with me.  After our very first session, this man called me on the phone and said, “Paul, it’s like my mind was hungry for this.”  Many of us don’t realize that we feed our minds daily – the question becomes WHAT do we feed our minds.  To intentionally consume mind food that inspires, uplifts, enlightens, and encourages will go far toward assisting you to remain in a paradigm of positivity and production.
 
If you would hit the mark, you must aim a little above it; every arrow that flies feels the attraction of earth.
- Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
 
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